Thursday, June 23, 2011

How to deal with problem of IGNORING

Ignoring 
It’s always easy to avoid someone but too difficult to be avoided by the dear one. Sometimes you have an issue with someone and it can get to the point that the individual just stops paying attention and ignores you. This condition really frustrates and becomes a loadful over the life. The silent treatment could be a better weapon to use but if other has it then it becomes horrible experience for the one.

There is solution to this problem. Again the good times could be brought and graces could be availed. All such could be entertained by following the below steps:-

The Mantras to follow:-

a) Sometimes we build more expectations from a person. Have a look over the interactions of the concerned persons with others. If the behavior with others is same as the same with you, then it’s not a big deal. The conclusion which comes is that the person you are concerning is either less socialite or conservative.

b) Examine your behavior towards the individual. You may have done something wrong or hurt or upset the person. Just have a thought that when the person started ignoring you. If you get the root of the problem then fix the problem by simply interacting with the person. Make sure that the other understands that it was simply a misunderstanding case, nothing else.

c) Talk to common friends and ask them if they noticed anything different about this person. These friends can give a different perspective on the situation and help you understand if there is anything else going on with the person that you did know about. For instance, they may be having trouble at work or school that caused them to withdraw and it may have nothing to do with you.

d) Just have a chat with the person and know the reason about the ignorance, make it clear that if something is wrong then it must be due to some misunderstanding and you are unaware about any of such conditions and issues.

e) If you think that the person is wrong and then too he is ignoring you then also as a person of big heart listens to what the person has to say and take it to heart.
Too many times people take offense at another person's actions and block out any criticism because they are offended or hurt. No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes, but the tragedy is not learning from and correcting those mistakes. If you do so then definitely your reputation or goodwill is going to be on rise. Commenting is too easy but to hear is a gentleman’s task.

f) Another weapon which mostly gives positive results is to do “APOLOGY”. Once you do so, the opposite party will melt down and the situation would be under control.

g) After your apology also the person does not change his/her behavior for you then the last option is that now you start avoiding the same person. Might be the person need some space. But if the condition remains the same after sometime also then it is better to get away from that person. Either the person don’t deserves you or you don’t deserve the same..